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Some families do this and some don

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  1. senior smoke

    senior smoke Well-Known Member

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    Hello:
    My wife and I attended a large party recently which had over 50 people plus children that attended. My cousin's husband's family was there and I witnessed something that I never saw before.

    My cousin's 12 year old child swore at one of the younger kids and an uncle grabbed the kid and slapped him across the face.

    The kid started crying and told his parents and they had no problem with an uncle disciplining their child. Some families would of had an all out war if an aunt or uncle did this to one of their kids.

    In my family the uncle would have told my wife and I what happened and we would of handled it ourselves.

    What do you think about relatives disciplining your children if you are not available? I know some families think this is ok, but I honestly thought there would be major problems over this, but I was told that this family allows this.

    Would you be ok with this if it was your child the uncle slapped?
    Steve Balistreri
    Wauwatosa, Wisconsin
     
  2. trapshootin hippie

    trapshootin hippie Well-Known Member

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    Kids need discipline and sometimes the parents will not do it.

    Hurrah for the uncle, And the parents for not having a problem with it.

    GneJ
     
  3. likes-to-shoot

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    There is a fine line there but in a parent's absence whether it be in the immediate vicinity or out of town the child needs discipline. It doesn't take long for the kid to realize who he can be around and get away with bad behaviour. Sometimes waiting to punish a child for something they have done would have little or no effect on future behaviour.

    Along the same line the parent who thinks its cute should have the shit kicked out of them also!!
     
  4. 548

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    Slapping a twelve year old kid across the face seems wrong no matter who you are. I mean we're not talking about a four year old's swat on the butt where the anticipation is worse than the swat. At twelve, I would hope a parent would have better tools in the tool box. But then we've all read how Brian in Oregon is a proponant of allowing five year old children access to rifles and live ammunition based on his observations of very mature five year olds. Maybe this was just a mature 12 year old exercising his first ammendment rights.
     
  5. Catpower

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    We will discipline other peoples kids when they are at our place, but I wouldn't slap a kids face for swearing we just use the good old bar of soap in the mouth, my wife uses Ivory, I keep telling her Palmolive tastes worse LOL

    But kids do need discipline and like LTS says if you wait it does little good because the kid forgot what he did to receive the discipline
     
  6. timberfaller

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    If you have a "family" it will not be a problem, if your a brainwashed liberal, you will always have problem with "discipline" IT IS NOT considered a "tool" of child development!

    Remember, Liberals believe in "it takes a Village" to raise a child NOT a "family" its not a word in the socialist/communist mindset, aka Ideology!

    If the above incident would have happened at one of our "family" gatherings, the slap might not have happened but for sure a swift kick in the backside would have occurred!

    But by the age of 12 most of our "family" had "respect" for their "elders" and cursing would have been meant with swift discipline by the closest Adult!
     
  7. 548

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    Timber, just remember, statistically speaking, half your family identifies with the liberal policies you despise. Go ahead Timber, dole out a little corporal punishment at the next reunion and let's see how well your "family" get's along.
     
  8. Bruce Specht

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    My fathers family was very close and we spent many days and nights together at jointly owned summer cottage. Some time my parents were the only adults at other times my aunts and or uncles were. If a kid did wrong he got disciplined with a slap or sent to their room it was SOP. My mothers family very disjointed and the would never fly.
     
  9. senior smoke

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    I once had an uncle that told my mother that I swore as a child when I was in his company. He did not hit me, but he lectured me about it. I thought that was the end of it and then he told my mom, my mom told my dad, and by the end of the day I wanted to run away from home.

    My mother would use a "board of education" on me, and my father all he had to do was reach for his belt and that alone scared the he-- out of me.

    My parents were very strick, some may say to strick, but my brother and I grew up respecting authority. I can still see my dad reaching for his belt, and as a child I can not tell you the effect that had on me alone.
    Steve
     
  10. Hauxfan

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    If that so called uncle had slapped one of my kids across the face, there would have been war!

    You can discipline kids without hitting them in the face.

    My folks did not believe in it and I do not either.

    Both of my kids will tell you that I was a strict disciplinarian, but I never mistreated them.

    And they will tell you that today, they are glad that I was. I may have been strict, but there was also a lot of love.

    Slapping a kid in the face is just wrong.

    Hauxfan!
     
  11. likes-to-shoot

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    Steve...try the razor strap in the back porch.....One time I threw the strap away only to realize later that day there was another half...LOL
     
  12. timberfaller

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    Sorry 548, YOU don't know my family, so don't make assumption's.

    Out of about 40+ family members, only 2 have "liberal" tendency's.

    And since Obo's been in office, THEY have come around and are no longer idiots!

    Yipeeeeeee! Getting them un-indocrataed was one of the toughest struggles of life!!

    The TRUTH ruled the day!!

    548, corporal punishment is not illegal in my state and IT happens now and again at family reunions!!!! And we gather as much as we can!!!!! IT'S called "Being a Family" you work together for the good of others!!

    A foreign "concept" in a liberal mind
     
  13. CharlieAMA

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    My Dad used a belt, and my uncle used a belt. I got plenty of it when I was young. But, I deserved it. Cat, your right, Pamolive tastes worse than ivory. LOL.
     
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    I don't think it's "liberal" vs "conservative" at all. Notions of proper disciplining of children have changed a lot in the past 50 years, and not always for the worse; and, as for relatives physically disciplining someone else's kid, well, they better have a prior understanding with the parents, or, it's likely to be war.
     
  15. timberfaller

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    BINGO, "prior understanding"

    Its takes a village to raise a idiot,

    It takes a family to raise, educate, instruct, give self respect and respect of OTHERS in order for society to gain a useful individual!
     
  16. Brian in Oregon

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    Badge 548, quote: <i>"Slapping a twelve year old kid across the face seems wrong no matter who you are. I mean we're not talking about a four year old's swat on the butt where the anticipation is worse than the swat. At twelve, I would hope a parent would have better tools in the tool box. But then we've all read how Brian in Oregon is a proponant of allowing five year old children access to rifles and live ammunition based on his observations of very mature five year olds. Maybe this was just a mature 12 year old exercising his first ammendment rights.'</i>

    Jeffery, that is a lie. You've taken an example I cited in a discussion on maturity, responsibility and age limits, and twisted into my being an advocate for armed five year olds. You conveniently left out my observation of the other end of the spectrum that there are 18 year olds who should never have access to a gun (which is a lie by omission of fact).

    My point was illustrate the problems with setting an arbitrary age limit, and I asked if there was an age when children suddenly became more mature and responsible. No one could answer that, which tends to show my point is valid.

    I cringe to think of the possibility of citizens of Minnesota being convicted on such inaccurate and out of context statements by a Barney Fife like you.
     
  17. Two Dogs

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    When I was growing up my father would beat us on our rear ends with a razor strap, it hurt and you smartened up real fast.

    Hitting a 12 year old in the face was not right back in the 50's and it's not right now.I believe in corporal punishment, but hitting a child in the face is just wrong...MHO
     
  18. kgp912kgp

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    There could have been 100+ different ways to deal with a potty mouth kid and the uncle should have taken the other ways of punishment other than slapping a young boy in the face, all kids need to be disciplined when they are out of line BUT remember that they are a child and not an adult.
     
  19. DoubleAuto

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    The uncle is definitely wrong to slap the 12 year old across the face. As stated above there many better ways to handle this situation. If that had happened in my family when I was young, the uncle would have a lot more to worry about than some kid swearing. Of course I was raised before "time outs" came along. Whoever invented "time outs" should have their butts whipped. Of course if I had sweared at another kid I would have had a lot to worry about when I got home.
     
  20. wolfram

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    The uncle was in the wrong and could have had a legal problem in addition to hard feelings within the family.

    Tempting yes, but not the right move.
     
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