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I'm here and I'm going to be ok

Discussion in 'Off Topic Threads' started by calilori, Oct 22, 2009.

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  1. calilori

    calilori TS Member

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    I've been getting a lot of emails checking up on me and I want to thank you all for your thoughts and prayers these last three months. For those who don't know, I lost my boyfriend 3 months ago. I don't want to go into details about his passing on an open forum because it was very personal to us, if you have questions you can contact me. I'm still pretty raw and in shock. I know I was posting about finding him a trapgun and then two weeks later he was gone. Thank you for worrying about me and keeping me in your prayers. I will eventually figure out how to go on by myself, in the meantime, you guys will never how much your support has meant.

    For those of you who get a thrill out of being cruel, please don't, I don't think I'm strong enough to take it right now.

    Thanks again,
    Lori
     
  2. Model12Lady

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    Cali,

    I lost my husband a month ago and I feel for you. I will keep you in my prayers. Everyone tells me it will get better with time but right now I still can't see it getting better. Stay strong.
     
  3. calilori

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    It is tough. I thought I'd be planning a wedding instead of a funeral. It sucks. Thanks for you kind words. I will keep you in prayers as well.
     
  4. 100after9

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    No death is easy. Not the ones we expect of the one inwhich we are truly shocked by.. But, I would like to think that they are in a much better place so that we can go on.... May you both be in you friends hearts .. Your fellow trap shooters. Good Luck and God Bless
     
  5. Pull & Mark

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    Lori, I am sorry to hear the loss of your loved one. I had no idea!!! You will be in our Prayers. Wendy & Jeff
     
  6. bigdogtx

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    Lori and Model12Lady,

    My condolences to you both at the loss of your men. The right words can never be at the tip of the tongue when needed, but I will give you this; over time the pain will subside, but the wonderful memories will last your lifetimes.

    May the peace of the Lord find both of your hearts.

    Jim
     
  7. calilori

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    Thanks for the kind words. I had been meaning to check in before now, but I've been a coward. Thanks guys for the emails encouraging me to keep in touch. I will be ok as soon as I figure out what I want to do now.
     
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    Lori and Model12Lady, My sincere condolences to both of you. Tony
     
  9. superxjeff

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    Not a coward lori! That's called taking some "me" time and you are more then entitled. That kind of shock can cause people to question all that they believe in and have ever held dear. I wouldn't wish the pain you must be going through on an enemy. Take the time you need and do what your instincts tell you is right.
    I wish you the best and am very sorry for your sudden loss. Jeff Westlund Eugene, Oregon
     
  10. BDodd

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    You're in my thoughts.

    Bob Dodd
     
  11. Hap MecTweaks

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    Lori, it's good to see your posting here again but I do wish it was under different circumstances. You've been in my prayers since I found out about your sorrows earlier.

    Model12Lady, I'm terribly sorry to hear of the loss of your loved one also. Just remember, all of us here are your friends and feel your pain. I am so sorry for both of you knowing the pain in your hearts.

    Gene Hapney
     
  12. Dave P

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    God can help the with the healing. Ask him and believe.
     
  13. W.P.T.

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    Condolances to both of you ladies on your loss ... You will be kept in our prayers and thoughts ... WPT ... (YAC) ...
     
  14. cunninmp

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    Lori and Model12Lady,
    I lost my wife in December of 1994. She was 46 at the time. Our daughter

    was only 13 at the time, so I couldn't even run away from home. We met

    right after Viet Nam, she was a Lt in Navy Nurse Corps and I was a

    Second Class Gunners Mate. Anyway, "OUR" daughter is now 28 and teaches

    Advanced English to H.S. Seniors. I know her Mother is as proud as proud

    can be. So how long will it take you to get over it? I wish I had a magic

    answer for you but I don't. Took me a long time. But I'll guarantee you this--

    "life" is a beautiful experience, every day is wonderful! So please do me

    a favor--take advantage of every waking moment. Get out on the trap

    field and shoot the best scores you ever have, or just do what you love

    doing! I promise, you won't regret it! My prayers and thoughts are with

    you.

    Mike Cunningham
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    ATA Vet

    PS: I'm 66 now and every now and then will look up at the sky and say--

    "Hey LT., I love you!"
     
  15. recurvyarcher

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    Dan Thome would be a good one to talk with. He lost his wife last year. I've been through the sudden loss of a fiance before...it was a long time ago and I was just a kid. I want to tell you that you will get over it with time, but it was just recently that I didn't think about Kelly at least once a week. The sadness goes away, but the sense of loss takes a longer time unless you work at it. Be careful that you don't get clingy or overprotective of people, especially men.

    Like I told you when it happened, take the love that you had with him and turn it into something positive and put your efforts into it. Honor him (and yourself) in that way. Our prayers are with you.
     
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    Sorry to hear of your loss Lori.....


    Guy Babin
     
  17. Jennifer

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    Lori I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I've been married 18 years and always wonder what I would do if I lost him. One day it will happen to one of us, and we will have to pick up the pieces and move on as best we can.

    As long as you pick yourself up and continue living your life, you will heal a little each day. Grieve, of course, but don't stop living. Don't feel guilty for smiling or having little happy moments; he would not want you to feel guilty for happiness. He would want you to live your life to the fullest - that's the best way to do him honor.

    Jennifer
     
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    Best of luck and keep your head up girl. It's going to take time.
     
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    Jennifer: You have a wonderuful way of saying just the right thing. Lori: our condolensences... Fred and Susan Berson
     
  20. need to shoot more

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    I have made this statment often and will continue to do so.

    Behind a good man is generally a better woman.At least it is for me.

    Jim Zee
     
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