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A generation of deluded narcissists

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  1. wireguy

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    http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/01/08/are-raising-generation-deluded-narcissists/?test=latestnews&intcmp=features


    We are raising a generation of deluded narcissists

    By Dr. Keith Ablow

    Published January 08, 2013

    FoxNews.com

    Survey: College students think they're 'greatest...
    Are we raising a generation of deluded narcissists?

    A new analysis of the American Freshman Survey, which has accumulated data for the past 47 years from 9 million young adults, reveals that college students are more likely than ever to call themselves gifted and driven to succeed, even though their test scores and time spent studying are decreasing.

    Psychologist Jean Twenge, the lead author of the analysis, is also the author of a study showing that the tendency toward narcissism in students is up 30 percent in the last thirty-odd years.
    This data is not unexpected. I have been writing a great deal over the past few years about the toxic psychological impact of media and technology on children, adolescents and young adults, particularly as it regards turning them into faux celebrities—the equivalent of lead actors in their own fictionalized life stories.

    On Facebook, young people can fool themselves into thinking they have hundreds or thousands of “friends.” They can delete unflattering comments. They can block anyone who disagrees with them or pokes holes in their inflated self-esteem. They can choose to show the world only flattering, sexy or funny photographs of themselves (dozens of albums full, by the way), “speak” in pithy short posts and publicly connect to movie stars and professional athletes and musicians they “like.”

    We must beware of the toxic psychological impact of media and technology on children, adolescents and young adults, particularly as it regards turning them into faux celebrities—the equivalent of lead actors in their own fictionalized life stories.

    Using Twitter, young people can pretend they are worth “following,” as though they have real-life fans, when all that is really happening is the mutual fanning of false love and false fame.

    Using computer games, our sons and daughters can pretend they are Olympians, Formula 1 drivers, rock stars or sharpshooters. And while they can turn off their Wii and Xbox machines and remember they are really in dens and playrooms on side streets and in triple deckers around America, that is after their hearts have raced and heads have swelled with false pride for “being” something they are not.

    On MTV and other networks, young people can see lives just like theirs portrayed on reality TV shows fueled by such incredible self-involvement and self-love that any of the “real-life” characters should really be in psychotherapy to have any chance at anything like a normal life.

    These are the psychological drugs of the 21st Century and they are getting our sons and daughters very sick, indeed.

    As if to keep up with the unreality of media and technology, in a dizzying paroxysm of self-aggrandizing hype, town sports leagues across the country hand out ribbons and trophies to losing teams, schools inflate grades, energy drinks in giant, colorful cans take over the soft drink market, and psychiatrists hand out Adderall like candy.

    All the while, these adolescents, teens and young adults are watching a Congress that can’t control its manic, euphoric, narcissistic spending, a president that can’t see his way through to applauding genuine and extraordinary achievements in business, a society that blames mass killings on guns, not the psychotic people who wield them, and—here no surprise—a stock market that keeps rising and falling like a roller coaster as bubbles inflate and then, inevitably, burst.

    That’s really the unavoidable end, by the way. False pride can never be sustained. The bubble of narcissism is always at risk of bursting. That’s why young people are higher on drugs than ever, drunker than ever, smoking more, tattooed more, pierced more and having more and more and more sex, earlier and earlier and earlier, raising babies before they can do it well, because it makes them feel special, for a while. They’re doing anything to distract themselves from the fact that they feel empty inside and unworthy.

    Distractions, however, are temporary, and the truth is eternal. Watch for an epidemic of depression and suicidality, not to mention homicidality, as the real self-loathing and hatred of others that lies beneath all this narcissism rises to the surface. I see it happening and, no doubt, many of you do, too.

    We had better get a plan together to combat this greatest epidemic as it takes shape. Because it will dwarf the toll of any epidemic we have ever known. And it will be the hardest to defeat. Because, by the time we see the scope and destructiveness of this enemy clearly, we will also realize, as the saying goes, that it is us.

    Dr. Keith Ablow is a psychiatrist and member of the Fox News Medical A-Team. Dr. Ablow can be reached at info@keithablow.com.

    Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/01/08/are-raising-generation-deluded-narcissists/?test=latestnews&intcmp=features#ixzz2HU3IHM9W
     
  2. JACK

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    saw that. true stuff. games, facebook and tweets form celebs will not make you a dime. But they will keep yo in you parents house till they die.
     
  3. AEST BOSS

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    Yes....and the idiots in Washington DC think doing away with the 2nd Amendment is the solution. Not sure who is more deluded.
     
  4. Catpower

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    Very true article
     
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    Usually takes for them to try getting that first job after getting their degrees to find out they're not all that and a bag of chips...those first interviews bring them back to earth quick
     
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    One thing that was brought up in the article, quite a few years ago our son was on a little league baseball team that was terrible, they lost every game, at the end of the season we got a letter wanting us to kick in so they could buy each team member a trophy, they all got mad at me because I didn't think coming last deserved a trophy

    They all thought I was a cold hearted SOB because I thought it was wrong, they said it would ruin their self esteem, if they were so worried about their self esteem win at least one game
     
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    Aren't these OUR children? I raised mine, not the virulent elements listed in the quotation.



    The article implies we parents have no personal responsibility.



    I don't blame society for the actions of my children, their attitudes, and outlooks on life. I attribute their character to the way they were raised and the genetics (some good, some bad) they were given.


    Dr. Ablow is a quack and it does not appear that he has any children of his own. Read more about this expert media personality at the Wiki write-up at the link provided.



    Guy Babin
     
  8. CalvinMD

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    Just the general condition of society these days make me glad I didn't bring any kids into the world....bein a ex-swabby I'm sure you and Boom-Boom ran a tight ship and raised some awesome young-uns Guy..good shooting Ol buddy!
     
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    Guy, you may have raised your kids but most parents today are AWOL in the parenting dept. Kids today are raised by corporate America and the intellectual left. I don't care what anyone says, this guy is correct about today's kids.
     
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    Aprice I was thinking the same thing
     
  11. Brad Dysinger

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    What is the deference between these kids and Trap Shooters today. Easier targets, everyone in a special category and winner ribbons for everyone. We can't clean up trap shooting and the ATA EC how will we change the congress and the country? Brad
     
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    I have often thought the same thing Brad. Trap shooting was a better game with 3 hole targets. It's why I'm a sporting and pot shooter. The occasional ATA format 100 bird shoots I involve myself in are usually humbling because they are very 3 hole targets. I like it that way.
     
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    If you separate single parent homes and 2 parent homes the truth will still be there, but it will have a vastly different appearance.

    Mothers love their children so much they destroy them with indulgence, confusing discipline with meanness.

    This whole thing started with Doctor Spock.

    HM
     
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    Brad,


    The difference between our generation and that of our children is one generation. I'm 58--I figure you are 60 to 70ish—what’s your point?


    Your kids are mine--mine the same as yours.



    Are you from a superior generation, or are you just superior to most in general? It seems that you do consider yourself above the active rank and file average ATA shooter these days. So be it, you had your day; it’s time to let things go.



    Halfmile,


    Do you hate your mamma? If I'm not mistaken Dr. Spock published his book in the late 40's. That may imply that the problem started with our mamma’s generation. Did you not get breast fed? I didn’t. Maybe that’s where the problem started.



    Gimme a break—all of you.




    Guy B.
     
  15. Bisi

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    Catpower, they do the same thing around here with Little League. The first place team gets a trophy about 3ft high, the last place team gets one 35" high. Just shows the kids you really don't have to do much to be deserving. Hell you don't even have to do anything. Heck if a kid strikes out every time they still stand up and cheer, then boo the kid who hits .600 all year but makes the last out to keep the kid who has never had a hit from coming up. LOL

    They are SO SPECIAL.
     
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    "RUINED BY PRAISE, SAVED WITH CRITICISM"
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