been married three times....my advice is to just rent occasionally..not to buy......this way you can upgrade as you go! all kidding aside....i mean it!

A friends brother is a once divorced cop who worried about some of these same things. Hating hanging around bars to meet someone new, he now RENTS! A couple times a month he calls an escort service and says WOW! 90% knockouts that REALLY know how to treat you! He is so happy with that arrangement that he says he will never marry again, and can't wait for the next new escort. He tells us about some of them, and continues to say WOW! He said he usually gets better treatment than if someone actually was in love with you. AND many WELL-built knockouts! For about $150 to $200, he always says WOW!

I hope all you ladies are getting a GOOD look at this...yes, that's right...

Seriously, the pros and cons of being married. On the negative side, you don't always get your way when you are married. If you put your own self needs above anybody else do everyone a favor and stay single and don't have children. You don't deserve to share your life with anyone else. On the plus side, I nave never had a lonely day since I got married and had children. Not one. I can't imagine my life without my wife and children and now grandchildren. It would be a lonely meaningless existence. To me family is everything. There is a love and bond with my wife and children that can never exist with friends. I think about my family as much as I do about hunting and shooting. On the financial side, which should even appeal to selfish people, married people tend to be better off. Two incomes is better than one. More stable too. Like having an insurance policy if one of you loses your job. If you look at the statistics of the top family incomes it is heavily weighted toward marriage. Children are much better off living in a family with a mother and father who love and care for each other and their children. That means two people who can put other's needs above their own or at least on the same level. Harder and harder for people to do with more people than ever only loving themselves. Almost all poverty in America is caused by the breakdown of marriage. Most of our criminals in our prisons are a result of the breakdown of marriage and the traditional family. I think happily married people with good children (Me) are the luckiest people in the world. I look at single people as life's big losers. Pitiful selfish people that will never know the true happiness that comes from loving others.

Highflyer,

For you to state that marriage is the end all be all for everyone is a bit presumtious of you. That it works so well for you is great but I hope you would agree that it's not for everyone. For you to say that those who are not married for whatever reason are selfish losers is disrespectful to say the least of their choices. Not everyone is that needy that they need to have a life partner and all that goes with it.

Respectfully, Eric

How I see it. It isn't like I don't know what I am talking about. I have lived both. A good marriage with good children is far better than being single with nobody. Far better. Single people without someone they love to share life's pleasures with, LOSERS.

You seem to be a bit closed minded on the subject. Very sad indeed.

Eric

Highflyer, there are several of us on this board who have lost their mate due to cancer/heart attacks etc. and for you to call us losers is totally uncalled for.

I think you owe those people an apology.

Hauxfan!

If I lost my beloved wife do to cancer or a heart attack I would indeed consider myself a loser. It would be a very hard loss to overcome. Same with any of my children. But it is far better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I don't owe anyone an apology. The truth is the truth, those with the most loved ones are the biggest winners in life. Our pop culture preaches that things and money are what defines life's richness. Wrong. That couldn't be more wrong.

The gospel as preached by highflyer. Anyone who disagrees is a sinner and bound to be dammed for eternity. Talk about being one sided, wow!

Eric

Wow, Highflyer........I lose my wife to cancer and that makes me a loser.

What a one sided narrow view of life you have.

I consider myself a winner for having her all of those years that I did and enjoying her companionship. To bad you can't see that side.

Hauxfan!

I can't believe anyone would be so stupid that they couldn't see the difference between someone losing a spouse to cancer and someone too selfish to get married or stay married or having such a distorted self-image that they are incapable of finding a spouse to love when there are literally millions of people to choose from. Then there are those who just make terrible choices and jump from one failed marriage to another. I have known all of the above. I pity them all. So sad. Getting ready to meet my wife and daughter for the ultrasound of my new grandson. Sure beats the heck out of going home to an empty house.

Talk about being needy and co-dependent. I go home to an empty house every day and love the serenity it offers. I also love not being responsible to or for another person, being able to do anything I want when I want to without having to explain anything to anyone. It's all about freedom and choices.

Eric

"I hope all you ladies are getting a GOOD look at this...yes, that's right..."

Buzzy, this is 2008. Almost 2009. Women can buy escorts, too. And we can buy them in either gender...

Oh really now?

Most women don't have to buy them. All they have to do is invite someone in!!!!! A simple as winking at the kid next door! Its VERY EASY for women. But most women have to be too prim and proper. They have to say the hell with that sometime. Just be nice to someone sometime. Invite someone in and quit trying to be hard to get for cripes sake! If you are an adult - be nice to someone and get it on!

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